Since smartphones became a part of our lives over 10 years ago, the way that we have used them has changed dramatically. For many, the positive benefits of smartphones include being able to work from anywhere and communicate on the go. But for others, the relationship with their phone has gone unchecked, almost turning into an obsession, with many young people only communicating through their phones. This has had an impact on relationships, the way we interact and behave, not to mention our mental health.
However, while this unhealthy relationship looked to be getting out of control, more and more, people are choosing to take back control of their smartphone and how they use it, which can have huge benefits on our relationships, the way we communicate and our mental health. Here are a few ways that people are changing their behaviour with their phones so they can live happy, connected and fulfilled lives.
How Do Not Disturb
For many years, this function went unused. Why would you want to put your phone on do not disturb? But many people are using do not disturb to limit the times that their phone can demand their attention. There are so many different do not disturb settings that you can use to limit the constant pinging of messages of notifications so you can focus on a meeting, a conversation, or some well needed relaxation time.
By setting up do not disturb for certain times or situations, you can focus more on living your life in that moment. Whether it’s some time with your family, meal times, relaxing with a glass of wine or a good book. Reducing the distraction from your phone allows you to be present, to focus fully on any given moment and give it your complete attention. This will not only make you feel better, more relaxed, more focused and in control, it can also improve your relationships and communication skills.
How Switching Off Notifications
There’s a reason why the notification tones are so shrill – they are designed to grab your attention. But with all your notifications switched on, barely a minute goes by without your phone demanding that you check it to see what the notification is. By switching off your notifications, you are taking back control of how and when you check your phone for messages etc.
Removing your phone’s ability to demand your attention can really help with anxiety, feeling distracted and you will find you are more able to concentrate and focus on the conversation you are having or the task that you are doing.
How Reducing Screen Time
Many parents limit the amount of screen time that their children can have because they know that affect it can have on a child’s sleep, concentration, and mental health. Yet more and more adults are limiting their own screen time as well. Having a curfew after which, unless it is an emergency, phones go away, or specific times when phones are not allowed can really help improve communication and strengthen relationships. Sitting down for a family dinner without phones at the table gives you and your family time to connect, to catch up and be present. Putting phones away long before bedtime is also a great way to spend quality time with your family, while preparing for a good night’s sleep.
There is no doubt that there are huge benefits to owning a smartphone. But by changing our relationship with our phones, it is possible to avoid the inherent dangers, and still manage to be productive, to be mindful and present, to improve communication and spend quality time with friends and family, without going completely off grid.