Helping Teens Cope with Exam Stress: A Parent's Guide for April 2025
Discover practical ways to support your teen through exam season. Learn how to spot stress, encourage healthy habits, and know when to seek help.
April marks both Stress Awareness Month and the lead-up to exam season for many teenagers. While some young people take exams in stride, others experience stress that can impact their mental health and self-esteem. If you're a parent navigating this time with your child, here are five practical, evidence-informed ways to support them, plus guidance on when it might be time to reach out for professional help.
With academic pressure on the rise, especially following years of post-pandemic disruption and social comparison online, it’s no surprise that more teens are struggling during exam season.
- Recognise the Signs of Exam Stress
Not all stress is visible. Your teen might not always tell you when they’re struggling, so it’s important to keep an eye out for subtle cues:
- Changes in mood or increased irritability
- Difficulty sleeping, staying asleep or waking up
- Loss of appetite or changes in eating habits
- Withdrawal from family or friends
- Frequent headaches or stomach aches
If these signs persist, they may indicate that your teen's stress is becoming overwhelming.
Common Myth: “If they’re not crying, they’re fine.”
Stress doesn’t always look dramatic. Many teens internalise it—withdrawal, headaches, and irritability are often signs they’re struggling.
- Encourage Healthy Study Habits
Support your teen in developing a study routine that works for them:
- Help them create a realistic revision timetable, allowing for regular breaks.
- Encourage use of tools like flashcards, mind maps or quiet study apps. Everyone learns differently – some are more visual, some are more auditory, whilst others prefer to make notes. Find out what works best for your child.
- Make sure they’re not studying too late into the night—rest is crucial for memory and focus.
Keep the focus on effort, not perfection. Praise their commitment and remind them that exams are only one part of their journey. And not the whole story.
- Promote Relaxation Techniques
Teach your teen simple strategies they can use when feeling overwhelmed:
- Breathing exercises. Two short inhales followed by a long and slow exhale – repeat until heart rate slows down
- Progressive muscle relaxation (where they tense and release muscle groups)
- Short walks, gentle exercise, team sports or even just a few minutes of stretching
- Listening to calming music or using mindfulness apps like Headspace or Calm. Even their own Spotify list if they prefer – as long as it’s something that makes them feel calm and brings them joy.
Let them know it's okay to take time out when needed—it's a form of self-care, not laziness. The rest will help them focus when they come back to studying.
- Maintain a Balanced Lifestyle
Exam season doesn’t mean life should stop. A healthy balance supports emotional resilience:
- Encourage regular sleep, nutritious meals and movement
- Keep screens out of the bedroom where possible
- Make space for things your teen enjoys—from baking and sports to events and chatting with friends
You might also consider modelling this balance yourself; teens often mirror what they see at home. Let them see you balancing your duties and responsibilities with your hobbies and socialising.
- Offer Emotional Support and Be Present
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply be there:
- Let your teen talk without immediately jumping in with solutions
- Offer validation: “I can see how hard this is for you”. For example, if your teen says 'I'm going to fail,' instead of reassuring right away, try: 'That sounds really tough—what makes you feel that way?'"
- Share your own past experiences of pressure or failure to normalise their feelings
Avoid comparing them to others and be mindful of placing extra pressure on results. Your connection is far more valuable than performance. It’s okay if you’re feeling the pressure too. Supporting your child can be emotionally demanding, and you deserve compassion just as much as they do.
- Know when to Seek Professional Help
If your teenager is showing ongoing signs of stress, or their mood and behaviour are significantly impacted, it may be time to seek help. A qualified therapist can provide a safe space where they can talk openly, build coping strategies and gain confidence.
At my practice in Hampstead and Highgate, we specialise in working with teenagers, young people, and their parents. Whether it's anxiety, school pressure, or feeling general overwhelmed, support is available.
If you’re worried about your teenager and want to explore therapeutic support, feel free to get in touch and book an initial consultation. Together, we can help your child manage stress in a healthier, more confident way.